My husband is finishing his last week of Phase One, due to graduate March 9th. I'm desperate to connect with other wives, and even better mothers! I have a daughter who is 1.5 years old and am expecting #2 in June. This experience so far as been so much more difficult and heart wrenching than I ever imagined. I thought by week 5 apart it would have started to get easier and I would be finding a new temporary "normal" without him, but most days are just as hard as the day before. Maybe because with all the excitement of the holidays and family being around, I'm still in kind of a let-down from that... I've just started scheduling some swim classes, art classes, library classes etc with my daughter to get us busy and hopefully the time will go by faster!
My recent research about his MOS training has gotten me really discouraged. I know things could always change and you never know...but it doens't look likely that I will be able to join my husband until AFTER his MOS training. He is in aviation maintenance, which I understand means he will be in Pensacola, FL for a few months then somewhere else to finish his training. Not sure if he will be around for the birth of our second child. So aside from 10 days together here and there between trainings, we probably won't be together until next fall. Which means he is missing almost a year of his daughter's life! He was the MOST involved dad I have EVER met/seen/heard of - the kind of dad/husband that made all my girlfrinds with children terribly jealous. Such an incredible dad (we practice a lot of attachment parenting methods, like co-sleeping and babywearing, etc.) So he and my daughter were unbelievably attached and connected for her being so young.
Anyway, I'm starting to ramble. Sorry if this is a downer post. I'm trying to be really positive when I write my husband, so I needed to vent here in hopes of someone having walked this road or currently in the same shoes. I know parents and girlfriends truly miss their recruit terribly, and I don't downplay that at all -- but a wife and mother's relationship is different and I'm hoping to connect with someone with a similar situation to mine...
God has been so faithful to me and my daughter during this time. I know this is His plan that he has called us to, so I do find comfort and peace in that.
Thanks for listening group!